Are You Struggling with Relationship Issues?

• Do you find yourself hoping your partner will change? That he will someday give you what you need?
• Would you like to build a healthy romantic relationship if one is missing in your life?
• Have you been uncomfortable expressing your true, authentic self in your marriage?
• Are you second-guessing your own needs and thinking you’re just too demanding?
• Does it seem like your relationship is full of problems like criticism and defensiveness?

It can feel painful to be stuck in a relationship that feels unsatisfying. Often, the relationship started out with love and excitement, but over time, devolved into tension and conflict. Many high-achieving women struggle with prioritizing their own needs in a relationship.

Without the belief that you deserve to have your needs met and the ability to put yourself first, you might stick with an unhappy relationship because that is how you feel – stuck. It seems easier just to hide the relationship issues than face them head-on.

The process is exhausting, but you know you’d like to be happily coupled someday.

Many Women Struggle with Relationship Problems

It is not uncommon for women, even those who are smart and motivated, to feel unhappy in romantic relationships. In fact, around 50% of people who seek counseling do so because of marriage problems. Common concerns include having a partner who puts his career ahead of the relationship, lack of effort on behalf of one or both people, disagreements about chores and how to parent, communication issues, and even bad sex.

It makes sense that so many women nowadays struggle with remaining satisfied in a relationship. Because more women than ever have their own careers and are independent, they do not “need” a husband for support. So their relationships are less about subsistence and, probably for the first time ever, more about a good friendship, intimacy, and satisfaction.

If you’re one of the 58 million unmarried women in the United States, chances are that you desire to have a relationship or get married. But just because you are more independent now than women ever have been doesn’t mean that you don’t want to be in a committed relationship.

In fact, according to one study, approximately 60% of women who are not married say that they would like to have a committed relationship or marriage. This number is even higher (closer to 70%) when it comes to unmarried women who have children.

Yet when it comes to actually choosing a compatible partner, many women struggle and end up selecting a partner who is not a good fit, as evidenced by the percentage of marriages that end in divorce, which is somewhere between 40 and 50%.

The good news is that, with the help of a therapist, you can learn to make choices that serve you better in your love life, whether you are coupled or not.

Relationship Counseling Can Help You Feel Optimistic

Most women have experienced relationship issues at some point during their adult lives, and I have dealt with many of those issues on both a personal and professional level. I combine my 10+ years of experience as a doctor and therapist with a goal-oriented approach to help women just like you.

Most women who seek relationship counseling with me experience improvement. This could look like:

• clarifying relational needs
• gaining confidence
• setting boundaries
• strengthening partnerships
• creating new romantic relationships
• feeling more optimistic about the future

When you initially contact me, we will speak at length about your concerns, your goals, and how I work. If we are a fit, we will commit to working together via weekly video sessions for at least four months. I’ll be your relationship coach, of sorts.

In our sessions, we will start by looking at what is happening NOW – not what you wish was happening, not how your partner used to behave, not what you hope will happen in the future.

Once we have a clear picture about the present, we dive into what you want in your relationship. How well are your needs being met? What ARE your needs? If you’re single, what kind of relationship would you love to have?

Then we look at what it would take to get from where you are to where you want to be. After all, driving to a new destination without a map isn’t very effective! If, after four months, you want to continue the work in therapy, you can renew our time together.

I also offer an online women’s healing circle that meets twice a month for those who would love to have group support after they have worked with me individually.

Relationship counseling truly can support you in building the relationship you desire and deserve.

You Still May Have Questions…

I’ve heard that therapy can be expensive.

If you think that hiring a therapist is too expensive, that’s OK. You probably have never spent money on yourself in this way. In fact, we, as women, are often not taught to invest money in our own personal growth.

We are taught to spend money on cars, fancy purses, or the latest iPhones, and we even borrow money to buy schooling and a house. But what good are these things if we’re not fundamentally happy? If we’re not creating the relationships we want and honoring our needs in the process? Another question to ask yourself is, “How much would it be worth to me to get the results I want for the rest of my life?”

What if we’re not a good fit?

I spend an hour with you on the phone before we ever decide to work together. I tell my clients that finding the right therapist is like dating – you have to feel comfortable and secure with the person you’re seeing! If you don’t feel comfortable, don’t like my approach, or for whatever reason don’t think it would work, I will give you some names of other trusted therapists in the area who might be a better fit for you.

You Can Feel Empowered in Your Relationship

If you’re ready to see how relationship counseling with me can help, the first step is to give me a call for a free consultation: (859) 948-8606. You can also email me here. I try to get back to voicemails and emails within one day.